Safar Me Dhoop To Hogi|Nida Fazli

This is a recitation of a famous Ghazal of the legendary Nida Fazli Sahab on Youtube.

Muqtida Hasan Nida Fazli (1938 – 2016), was a famous poet, lyricist and dialogue writer. Honoured by the Padma Shri in 2013, his writings have a special place in the hearts of every generation of people.
We have heard his songs in movies like Razia Sultan, Sarfarosh, Sur and many more.

I’m trying my hands on Youtube, and enhancing the quality and viewer experience by each video. It would mean a lot if you take a look and show support by visiting my channel.

Here is the link

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnQASWByP9PaOTe-3Nj_IvA

For now, relish this beautiful work with my voice.
Use headphones for better experience.

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An New Journey On Youtube

A journey of a thousand miles, begins with a single step.

– Lao Tzu

This quote perfectly inspires what I believe is a trailer towards something I am gradually trying to begin.

This idea of a channel came while watching content that has stimulated my thinking since years. And the future is certainly the virtual world of videos and value creation whether it be skill based content, on intellectual topics or entertaining videos.

So here am I with my first video, which is light hearted and my simple attempt to help people reduce stress and anxiety in these hard times. It’s about how nature and it’s beauty can inspire hope and power within us. And that after each dark night, there emerges the Sun to empower every single bit of life longing for light on this planet.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnQASWByP9PaOTe-3Nj_IvA

This is the link to my channel, please visit and honestly this is some beginner level content but I hope to take it farther enough and enrich it with value.

Initially your support is priceless to me, so please, comment and subscribe through the link above.

Thanks a lot 😊

The Love For Words

It’s has been a while since, I’ve started writing and reading blogs, and honestly if there’s a place that remains unaffected by toxicity is this. I feel really fortunate to be part of a community like this.

I guess people who read have an enormous level of understanding about the world, they know very well the nuances of social happenings, they can uncover what went right or wrong in a situation as they develop a comprehensive approach in their interpretation of instances, though it is subjective.

But people who write are something else entirely. Love, freedom, and life entangled in loneliness, joy and vulnerability, is what they breathe. Their words originate from the depths of heartbreaks, affection, curiosity and reasoning. Yet never have I felt even a sense of lack of hope in these writings. There is always fortitude, foresightedness and intuition to connect the dots.

And as I discover myself in this journey, I believe that stress is a shadow of these tough times, but to get relieved of it is a choice. When I feel down, I run into listening to music, that hugs me, laughs with me and pats me with ‘everything is Okay’. Honestly, I think, writing is my new and true friend, it doesn’t help on diverting my mood merely, but sits with me, listens, to advise me, on ‘how everything will be okay. Here I can be brutally honest about where I’m going wrong, I find all the suggestions that I might otherwise gather talking to different people and so I have found that the best self help comes from the SELF.

The true emotions that are stitched within us, are revealed and expressed with clarity when we write. You know when our grandparents used to send long letters, they were polishing their thoughts consequently, and so they were clear and more conscious about themselves. Their confidence, character and communication abilities reflected that they were real men and women who lived with integrity and humility. And writing was a major habit that helped become such.

Secondly, being a beginner is a big responsibility as you have built the connection with readers, have patience and sharpen your fingers simultaneously. I’d like to learn more and listen to feedback and improve as a person all over.

I was silly enough to change my URL (site address) after few years of posting poetry being a college student, as I did not want to use my name now, (introversion alert), I did that and the blog got crashed. I’ll manage that but yes I learnt something. That I have to keep aside my complexes and insecurities as what I deliver is more important than in what name I do. I have to spend time on value more than the unimportant things. I deleted my old poetry posts as I thought them to be mediocre, but I’ll polish them to satisfaction and repost again.

There has been a lot of things going inside my mind, and as you know we are never alone even for a split second, we have a thought always ready to accompany us. These are reflections of the mind, you and I live with, and thinking itself is meditation. There is something worth inside, which reveals itself as we focus on it. This was how the name Musings Unravel emerged.

I hope you and I connect and communicate with thoughts that uplift us. And honestly I’m desperate to do so. So Thanks for stopping bye, this is me Tanishk Batham and I wish you a great great day.

Guide To Healthy Relationships : Blaming No One But You

It seems interesting that the biggest conflicts happen for small reasons. Did you fight that whole dark night for a little sentence that contained no significance and meaning but was just uttered? You know you get hurt when someone who you have expectations from, doesn’t listen and follows what you wished or requested. Although your concern was not climate change and carbon emissions but petty things (you know what). Still beneath you know he or she didn’t intentioned to trouble you, but the frustration of the moment overtakes your reasoning. Now you don’t see the angel somebody is for you, what all they did for you, giving their love and care and making sacrifices for you though untold but not unknown. But you declare them to be evil in an instance.

Deep down regrets take their bit of space, and if a resolution hasn’t reached in time, the ego becomes powerful enough to swallow humility and separate hearts. Just look at your failed relationships with someone within your family, or friends, or (you know who). Time teaches us and as it passes we never lament the conflict, we always regret “had I kept aside my ego and confessed or apologized or just had a talk about whatever went wrong, and fixed the crack, life would have been more peaceful”.

We should keep in mind that a life of fulfilment, of virtue, of quality, has to be lived. And to be in harmony and respect with people around us is a massive success, and whatever that distances us from us should be identified and removed. Just a reminder, your comfort, or security, your money and these gadgets that we are mad about have no benefit, you and I need healthy relationships to stay happy.

So if we believe strongly that change is the need of the moment, we have to dig in deeper to find out what that little thing is beneath the pile of these conflicts.
It is your subconscious “I am right” attitude. You get disappointed because you think your requests aren’t been considered but rejected. So this rejection boosts whatever you feed the majority of your time, it may be insecurity, or jealousy or ego. You won’t let yourself be called wrong especially in your thoughts. You are a warrior who fights for himself within his mind and always wins.
You see, there are ‘selfless’ people and YouTube videos ready to advise that it’s not your fault. And when you hear this from someone else, the magic of confirmation bias blinds your conscience. Now, this has become your default template of thinking, “the world is wrong, you are right.”

Just reverse this, every time you sense that you’ve entered the territory of a conflict, always begin with “maybe I am wrong”, ” maybe I need to understand his or her point of view”. And boom, the real magic begins, you start cultivating empathy. It’s powerful, that you’ve become someone who keeps others opinions first. If you misinterpret this as weak, we certainly not need more strong people as of now. We all have our subjective way of thinking which reflects our past experiences with life and we all are right, but for a moment to avoid what could be a future regret, blame no one but yourself first. Task yourself to ask yourself.

This is not to lose but to avoid the battle itself. It is to have peace, where everybody has a say, but no one feels the other is wrong.
Of course, this isn’t a thumb rule in every situation, there are big and real troubles in stock as well, but how do we adapt according to what we have no control over is how powerful we become.
The fitness of any relationship is understood by its ability to stand the unexpected, to communicate what updates in behaviour are required and to work on it selflessly.

We need a reversal of the thought process we have bitterly conditioned ourselves to live with.

Countries of the world are fighting, for a piece of land, not for poverty and inequality, carbon neutrality and climate change, we have built the most advanced weapons and nuclear capabilities, not to support each other, but to kill each other and destroy the environment. Today we’re fighting a pandemic, it’s time we realise, we are wrong. One simple thing we hear is that any change starts with us, if we change our behaviour, we become eligible to change the world. If we’re entangled in our little conflicts, only time will explain what was important.

If you found this moving, do check out the previous post in the series…

Guide to Healthy Relationships: Anger Management

Invasion On An Unguarded Fort

Each day the world has been moving at a pace accelerated by advancement in capacities and the unpleasant worry of an uncertain tomorrow. Unquestionably the pandemic has halted what was the old normal, shaking economies, livelihoods and hope. What it cannot weaken is the resilient ego which clouds the human psyche.

As a society, our understanding of life is reduced to money, survival and a confirmation bias about the same. The definitions of success, passion, growth, love and peace are over discharged and oversimplified. And so there seems a wave of people mindlessly chasing superficial happiness which ultimately cannot fill the void within.

Our culture as a society has been about living righteously, a noble, high minded, ethical and just lifestyle. This thinking is frequently reflected in our festivals. Last week we had Holi which brought this message of courage, no matter how small you are, if you stand against the wicked and unscrupulous however powerful, you win. Or we had Good Friday where the message of ultimate sacrifice for fellow beings can be learnt.

Such pious principles which were a source of human enlightenment are no longer pursued, only praised. What we see happening today is nowhere a reflection of what it was meant to be.
Tweaking values to our advantage, we are moving towards a future dominated by the language of consumerism where insecurities keep us away from the hard hitting real truth. And quite frankly, it is an invasion on an unguarded fort. Festivals are mindlessly celebrated, not valued. Wishes pour from all directions as a formality. Social media statuses about positively and ‘I am right’ are pills that distract us from questioning our actions. Flooded with choices and selfies, we welcome mediocrity which is marketed heavily, thus rejecting decency and critical thinking. Morality is thus refused as being impractical.

Realization comes at a point where things no longer stay the same, and truth is revealed, but can we afford to take it that further, because apparently, the answer is no.
We have to question, are we making a mistake here, in terms of breaking or building relationships, taking care of our environment, strengthening the mind that to in a direction of virtue? The idea of change has to be implemented at an individual, purely personal level. That is how things should be and that is when existence is be referred to as humane.

What has to be learnt is unlearning how things were taught.

A wise man once said nothing. I think he did what was right.

Guide to Healthy Relationships: Anger Management

The foundation of a worthy life is healthy relationships with people that matter to you no matter how far you go.

And to be at peace we require peaceful interactions with our friends, family and society at large. It does not mean you cannot fight, have arguments or disagree. A healthy relationship requires the willingness to understand each other (which takes time and effort), knowing where both of you differ and intersect and consequently not trying to force change but initiate adaptability.
One of the most simple reasons why relationships fail is due to a LACK OF UNDERSTANDING. Just remember the last argument you had, was it because you were adamant about proving the other wrong with your wise arguments and presenting yourself to be the messiah whose opinions are only worthy of being right?
I certify maybe you were right, but by not building consensus and not letting someone else justify his/her stand, not acknowledging and empathizing with the other, you lose heavily. This small little thing is a crack forever, families fight, couples fight, people fight, countries fight because lack of understanding breeds lack of trust which becomes a pile of negative experiences to remember.

But briefly, we’ll break down anger with a nuanced and subjective approach. Leaving other things aside what exacerbates any situation is anger. During a fight, it usually happens that what you were trying to say was understood as something else, and consequently, everybody exploded with their armament, the battle is now about something that was not the issue initially.

  • ANGER IS A VOLCANO
    You just burst out when you can’t take anymore. It’s not just one thing it is a series of annoyances you have taken and you’re at the saturation point.
    TIP – Never keep misgivings for the future, settle things as and when they happen, nothing should be kept in stock.
  • ANGER IS A CHAIN REACTION
    You may be a calm person but if you encounter someone else’s aggression, you mirror it. You think an eye for an eye, tit for tat is a good defence strategy. But then why do you feel bad? It is because you know you did something which you shouldn’t have done.
    If you quarrelled at home, your mood has changed for the day. You stay frustrated for the entire day. There is a high probability that you will release it on someone else who too may pass it.
    TIP – If you see someone angry, don’t react, stay calm yourself and just BREAK THE CHAIN, give him/ her time to fully discharge the frustration and everything will be great. Don’t let ego overshadow empathy. Everyone has a bad day.
    And if you are frustrated don’t make someone else the victim of your wrath, and you know you’re not stupid enough to be angry at your boss, but certainly at your maid or the gatekeeper or someone in your family.
  • ANGER IS IRRATIONAL
    We don’t say the truth when we’re angry, we say what we know will break someone’s heart. We make illogical conclusions based on incomplete information.
    TIP – Realize that every individual has different viewpoints which are not in harmony with yours. Acknowledge the FACT that you are also never perfectly right. This will cultivate humbleness.
  • ANGER IS FOR YOU
    We are NOT angry at people, we’re are frustrated with our selves, maybe we keep unrealistic expectations from others or a pang of guilt that we aren’t following the lifestyle that we should be. This is the frustration that we are burdened with and anger is just an expression for HELP if you see it in that way.
    TIP – Life is beautiful, only if you smile and spread love whenever an opportunity comes. If you regret being angry at someone, apologize, simple.
    SORRY IS A MIRACLE, don’t let ego or awkwardness decide the course of action.
  • ANGER IS A SHOUT FOR A DIALOGUE
    Usually, a third person when seeing a fight unfold does his best to keep both the parties far and quietens them. This is a wrong approach. Never separate two people fighting, I mean never let them stop the dialogue.
    Two people separated by silence are worse than two people fighting to make the other understand their point.

FINAL TIP – A direct conversation will only resolve issues, no other thing can.
Every problem in today’s world is a mental health issue, whether these are uncommon crimes or destroyed empathy or depression and anxiety. Relationships help us overcome these difficulties only if we don’t make the relationship itself a difficulty. Always be kind especially to someone who deserves it. We need each other more than ever before. The alarm has been raised!

Blaming No One But You

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